Why Don’t I Have Willpower?

Diet starts tomorrow is a popular phrase, yet for many, tomorrow never comes. People have many plans and hopes, but when reality hits, they struggle to stick with the ready made plans and are left feeling disheartened and disappointed time and time again. So where are they going wrong and why don’t some people have any willpower?

One of the most important factors when making a plan, for example a diet plan, is to focus on why you’re doing it. Are you unhappy with the way you look and want to lose weight for a holiday or outing? Do you want to be more healthy or fitter? Perhaps you want to be a good role model for your children? There are many reasons why different people strive towards the same or similar goals. You need to find the reason for you to help keep you motivated and driven. If you feel you are making sacrifices and don’t really know why, it’s going to be harder to keep going. If you keep your mind focused on what you’re going to achieve and how good that’s going to make you feel, you’ll be excited about the destination.

A specific goal is important too. You need to break your journey down into bite sized chunks. If you say to yourself: ‘I need to lose 2 stone and tone up’ then you have no deadline, no small goals on the way and no plan as to how you are going to achieve this. It can seem daunting and unachievable. Perhaps focus on improving your diet and increasing your exercise gradually as a starting point. This action plan will lead to you losing weight and toning up. Perhaps aim to lose 7lbs within 3 weeks, for example, with a reward for your achievements to keep you going, such as a new item of clothing.

The journey also needs to be desirable. So you don’t like going to the gym, how about taking a dip in the swimming pool? You don’t want to go without pizza, how about a home made option instead of takeaway. You don’t need to deprive yourself, you just need to take control and drive yourself to where you want to be. You are the only person who can get you there. Being busy, tired and simply not bothered isn’t an excuse enough to jeopardise a happy and successful life.

Willpower is all about self control. Temptation is all around us. If we practice self control and teach ourselves to resist temptation then we will reap the benefits in every area of our lives. People with high levels of self control, typically, have higher exam results, higher self esteem, binge less and have better relationship skills. Willpower can be practised and taught. By using the above methods to keep your mind focused, you can and you will get to where you want to be. Once you see success with the use of willpower, you will find it easier to focus next time.

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